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Why I hate Facebook (& a shocking infographic on how it ruins relationships

Don't read on if you are a lover of Facebook!

I really dislike Facebook.  Not just from a disgruntled business page owner point of view (6000 likers by the end and a reach of 10 per post, don’t get me started), but also from a personal view.  I deleted my whole account, personal and business, around two years ago and I haven’t looked back.  OK, so that’s a lie.  I did set up another account thinking I had to have Facebook for my business once, but it lasted around one hour and I realised no I didn’t have to have Facebook at all.

Here are some of the personal reasons I fell out with Facebook:

  • It’s addictive.  OK, so I’m now addicted to Twitter, but from a business/blog point of view.  I don’t have a personal account, so that’s more acceptable right?!  With Facebook I could waste minutes (really I mean hours) just reading others timelines and looking at their pictures – guilty!  It was such a waste of time but I couldn’t help myself.   Even though I didn’t want to be on it, I just couldn’t break away for ages.
  • I became really nosey.  I’d follow people’s arguments or conversations and really it was none of my business, but then they were making it public for all to see… But I didn’t want to be this type of person.  Again, I found I just couldn’t help myself with Facebook.  What a waste of my time.  It provided no benefit for me and made me feel very gossipy.  No thanks, that’s not the person I want to be.
  • People stop actually communicating.  So I might be old school, but what happened to texts and phone calls and actual invites, etc!   I was quite upset to discover a lifelong friend was engaged and hadn’t told me. I found out hearing it mentioned in conversation.  His response?  ‘Well I did post a status update on Facebook’.  Arg!  Another friend was upset we hadn’t RSVPd to an invite to which I said I hadn’t received one – ‘Oh I sent Facebook invites to everyone two days ago’.  Right – well I haven’t checked my Facebook for a few days so didn’t know. Arg!
  • People who aren’t really friends want to be Facebook friends.  SO many people I used to go to school with used to be ‘friends’ with me.  Some of them I was good friends with at school so I’d send them a message to say hi and chat and do you think I ever got a response?  Of course not.  Why on earth be ‘friends’ with me then?  Probably just to be nosey and see what I look like/do now.  But so frustrating.  Fake friends basically.
  • Attention seeking.  Another ‘friend’ I hadn’t seen for a few months posted some really worrying status updates, possibly quite suicidal, expressing how she had no real friends and no one was there for her, etc etc and what’s the point.  So I was super worried and sent a message.  Do you think I ever head back?  There are also the people who say ‘I’m deleting my Facebook’ ‘Oh don’t stop me’ you know the ones.  So a billion people say ‘noooo don’t delete it, yada yada yada’ and they do delete it anyway.  But then they’re back on Facebook two days later because of the addiction thing perhaps, but maybe they just weren’t getting many likes so needed to create some Facebook attention.
  • People take it way too seriously.  A friend of a friend had a baby.  The first baby within our friendship groups at that time.  My friend said to me 'I can't believe it took a whole month for him to change his profile picture to his baby!'.  Seriously?  As if he doesn't care for his baby as much because he didn't immediately update his profile photo!  What a silly observation!

SO in a nutshell, that’s why I don’t use a personal Facebook.  Because I know if I do again I’ll get sucked into it all again.  There are lots more reasons too and loads of business ones which you can read by clicking here.

What do you think of Facebook?  Love it?  Or hate it, but can't get off it?!

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  1. I could NOT agree more with this. I deleted my personal account years ago and never looked back. I'd have to add to the list of reasons the attention seekers that do nothing but post personal drama or their most recent political stance but then get immediately pissed off when people disagree with them or comment on a less than positive way. And then they use the "none of your business" argument. I'm sorry, did you not just purposely post that for everyone to see? I had to laugh about the "people take it too seriously." It's like that scene from the new Vacation movie where the friend gets mad because she didnt literally "like" her Paris pictures. I don't have time for that. I did hop over to read your business reasons as I am in the midst of trying to decide if I should reinstate myself on Facebook just for a blog page. But it sounds like I should just continue to enjoy my Facebook free world and carry on.

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  2. Laura

    DISLIKE FACEBOOK WITH A PASSION!! It's the biggest waste of time ever and everyone feels the need to document every moment of their lives there. (Sorry Facebook users!) It's intrusive and annoying! I Don't use it anymore, I have ever missed it and so happy it's not part of my life- like you, I stopped using it for several reasons well over two years ago. A few of those reasons are definitely some you stated. People get a bit silly over it and you're right- relationships can be ruined because of it. Then, last year I was persuaded into setting up a new account just so I could create a business page (just for my little Avon work) which I did reluctantly just to say I had tried it out. Hated it. And i i got one customer. Honestly, I closed the account within two months because I was banned by Facebook on more than one occasion for posting to buy and sell groups, so what's the point? If I can't share my business so that people can see what sort of items they can buy, then there's no point. They do have ridiculous rules as you said. They even thought i was a robot I think, and I had to provide evidence of my driving licence for ID! So it wasn't useful for me. I do use Twitter as I find that preferable all round. But that's it!

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  3. Nichola

    Yep self confessed addict here! And I do just scroll & scroll post the odd update here & there but mainly scroll lol! I have a few hobby groups I'm in that dominate my feeds mainly so I get lost in them but I agree with everything you have said absolutely 100% lol! *** Victoria's Reply *** I forgot to say I also hate the awkwardness - like when I would break up with a boyfriend when younger and then I'm still friends with his entire friendship group on facebook - awkward! Is it acceptable to just delete them all?! :)

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  4. I love this! Everything is so true even the infographic! I admit I am a Facebook addict! I can't say I really read what's on there, it's almost the habit of going on and scrolling that I'm addicted too! Although I could do that with other platforms! *** Victoria's Reply *** I do that with Twitter though - hoping something amazing will grab my eye! :P

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  5. Totally agree with you. I despise facebook.I'm not kidding - but 5 minutes before I saw your Twitter link to your post, I had been on facebook looking up ways to cancel my account with them. I get so angry with myself when I look at it! *** Victoria's Reply *** I love the way they don't instantly erase your account - they give you a cooling off period, in case you change your mind! :)

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  6. Absolutely hate it & rarely use the word hate. Could never understand why big businesses with their own sites felt the need to have a Facebook page as well? Fundamentally disagree with how easily they keep knowledge of their users. Have been told loads of times if I want to really 'make it' as a blogger I need a FB account. With all the new changes am so pleased I haven't ever had an account. It's still changing and they will want more money. Just not a fan. Such a shame that you got caught up in it but glad you've moved to a happier place. Sammie *** Victoria's Reply *** Thanks Sammie! Yes I don't understand why people say you must have one. Perhaps they've never tried one before as they are a lot of effort for little/no return nowadays! It used to be really easy to be seen on there as a page, so it meant businesses could advertise and talk to their customers as they browsed their feeds, but as they try to stop this it just seems pointless. I also find the word hate strong, but also use it now for FB! I read lots of news stories where FB were keeping certain info about users they shouldn't have, so I don't trust them either :(

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  7. fadsaburkair

    ATTENTION SEEKING! Ugh, I know right. That's the reason why I don't go to Facebook, only messenger, to catch up with some friends. But on the actually timeline, no way, attention seekers stress the nerves out of me. Haha! *** Victoria's Reply *** Haha! Seems a lot feel the same! But it's still doing soooo well, so must also be a lot still loving Facebook still.

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  8. I completely, totally and utterly agree with this!! Although I still have a facebook account, I get closer and closer to deleting it every single day. The only reason I have it is to keep up to date with family but now I'm thinking that if they can't take my number and exchange texts/phone calls every couple of weeks then they can't be that interested. All it does is attract drama and allow people to be attention seekers. I could genuinely rant about this all day. And 24/7 availability drives me insane! My best friend will spam me at all hours because it's free and there. No. I need alone time! *** Victoria's Reply *** Ah, yes, the 24 hour thing. I feel like that having an iPhone with access to emails, social networks and everything all the time so easily. I guess it contributes to why so many people feel stressed, because we can never now truly switch off!

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  9. Amy shepherd

    I couldnt agree more with this post!! I don't even have it as part of my ongoing business! Too many bloggers have tweeted that they have been abused and critisised (not constructive Critisism) via facebook! I have personally yet to experience anything negative on Twitter from mum bloggers and followers but facebook seems to be a breeding ground for it! I'm worries my business won't develop successfully of I don't get imbed with the devil that is facebook. But for now I'm trying to refrain from creating a profile! *** Victoria's Reply *** I honestly don't think it's as effective as other platforms for business. Perhaps for the minority, but not most. I'm actually going to write a blog post about why I stopped using it for my business. I'll try and publish tomorrow/over the weekend. I only used it for my shop side of my business, before I was really blogging, so I've no experience of using it as a blogger, but what you've said is awful! It's such a shame there are so manhy negative people out there. I just try my best to ignore them, though words can sometimes stick. I watched a TV documentary about online trolls and it made me not care even more. The trolls they interviewed just did it for kicks and were actually such horrible people, I wouldn't really care what they thought of me as I'd never want their approval. They wouldn't be people I'd socialise with at all in real life. Hopefully the bloggers can just block these nasty people and forget about them. I think if you don't like what a blogger says, just ignore and don't follow them, rather than releasing an unwanted opinion, unless the blogger is actually asking for criticism or opening debate. I hope if I ever get really bad comments I can just ignore them and be thankful I'm nothing like the person posting them :)

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  10. Fab post :) Dislike FB too. Hardly use it. Mainly use the photo albums on business page as storage x *** Victoria's Reply *** I do wonder if it will slowly become a tool for the younger generation only :)

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  11. Couldn't agree more!!! Seriously! I deleted my facebook account a while ago. I have recently re activated it but purely for my blog. I also agree with it ruining relationships. Whilst not a factor in my seperation it has caused so many problems since! More than fed up with Facebook now. Think it has really run its course. xxx Claire *** Victoria's Reply *** Thanks for commenting! I read an interesting article the other day saying how it stops some relationships from naturally running their course, such as work friend, lovers and even normal friendships, as you can still always be friends on Facebook and keep an eye on each other! Wish I'd saved it :) http://www.theclairediary.co.uk

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  12. I completely agree with you, the only reason I keep mine is because a few children love to follow Dotty and don't have parents on twitter. I barely use the personal facebook account which is Shaun's old account anyway. When I post it's usually news stories which noone is intersted in. I hate the attention seekers (pplllleeeaaasseee look at meeee...yawn) and the "friends" requests from people I don't even know but follow my business account and think it's ok to ask. And I feel bad for saying no.. It's a pile of c@@p and the day I can turn it off, I will. I also don't spread my life on there and never would, nor am I interested in seeing anyone else's on there. If I want to know what's going on with my friends I will call/text them privately.. Great piece Victoria :) xxx *** Victoria's Reply *** I'm glad you liked it and thanks for commenting! It's a shame you can't just have a business page on Facebook. That would be a bit better than having to have it through a personal page. It's good if you get interaction on your business page. Mine just pretty much died at the end - no reach or interaction at all!

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  13. I agree. I do still have an account but I thankfully can control it. I tend to post remotely as well rather than direct. It's my biggest blog referrer and that's the only thing that has stopped me deactivating my account. My ex husband started an affair on there. I also divorced him citing that he used the computer too much. Around 10 to 16 hours a day! Social media has a lot to answer for. *** Victoria's Reply *** Oh wow, I'm sorry to hear that. That's crazy. It can become so addictive. It's great you get most of your blog traffic from FB, that's a good reason to keep it going and it's great you can control your useage :)

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  14. I cant stand it either. For a business/blog its useless unless you post videos or pay for ads, as for ruining relationships the amount of times facebook is involved or caused a break up. *** VICTORIA'S REPLY *** I think it can still be useless if paying for ads on Facebook. Someone has actually just reminded me of this video on YouTube which is a great watch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oVfHeWTKjag I did start paying for business ads on Facebook and then my reach really dropped on any non ad posts. I was so suspicious of them after that and didn't trust them or want to give them my business!

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  15. 'Yada Yada Yada...' Ha Ha...This is a brill post Victoria. I find I use FB less and less these days...having niw swapped my addiction twitter where my reach us much greater. I still keep updating my page but it doesnt hold the same spot on my priority list as its once did. There is a whole 'tinterweb' out there to explore... *** VICTORIA'S REPLY *** Haha! I'm glad you liked this blog post - I like it too :) I should have written it ages ago. I might write another about why I specifically deleted my business page too! It's crazy how many people still can't believe I'm not on Facebook as though it's impossible to live without it nowadays! :)

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