After two or three years of living with your boyfriend, and having the greatest time, it can feel as though your relationship isn’t going anywhere if he doesn’t ask you that all important question.
You’re ready and waiting for him to pop the question, but it seems like he hasn’t even thought about it — so why not drop a few hints to your man so that he knows that you’re truly ready to become engaged and wear the perfect engagement ring?
With the best of advice from Angelic Diamonds, specialists in bespoke yellow gold engagement rings, here are some ways of making sure that he knows you’re ready to get engaged.
Keeping your married friends close-by
So that your boyfriend doesn’t get cold feet, or have those pre-engagement nerves, try to make sure he hangs around with your married friends, or family members that have children, to show him that married life isn’t bad at all. This will make him realise that you’re comfortable with him being around others in more serious relationships.
Yes, marriage does have its ups and downs, but what relationship doesn’t? Demonstrating this commitment through your friends will help him to understand that you’re who he wants to be with. Although men who have parents that are divorced sometimes struggle to trust this commitment, replacing negative feelings with positive ones in this type of environment may help to bring him around to your way of thinking.
Being a go-to guy
Never fall into a routine when you’re in a relationship, as sometimes you can have your assigned roles and things become stagnant. To avoid this, make sure you’re always his go-to guy as well as his girlfriend. If you’re constantly being left behind for the guys, then this is going to put a strain on his ability to propose and take you seriously.
Be the complete package and try to involve yourself in his interests. If you can be part of his whole life, rather than just someone he spends time with, then he’ll feel like you’re indispensable. Once you get to this point in your relationship, then he’ll feel like proposing, as he can’t spend his time without you!
Sometimes you need to show some tough love
Sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind, but we know that this can always be difficult to do. If you don’t see your relationship heading in the right direction, and things are flatlining, try and find his pulse again by telling him you may move out.
Try changing careers without letting him know if you don’t want to be as dramatic – or try spending some time away with the girls so that he wants to know how you are more often. Although he knows that you’re always there for him, this will make him feel that he isn’t being as included as he should be, and he’ll start to wonder why. Keeping him on his toes in this way will make him realise that he needs to put the effort in (by proposing!) so that he can get your undivided effort and attention in the future.
It's best to be honest
When it comes to the success of a relationship, communication is always essential – even when there are hints and tricks that you could use to get him to propose. If you want to get engaged, then why not talk to him about why it’s important to you?
The likelihood is that if you can tell him how much you mean to him, then he’ll surely want to marry you just on that basis. Sometimes people have the same fears and doubts within a relationship, but they are just too afraid to address them with each other. By talking about your future together, he’ll know that you want to be a part of it. By giving him that gentle nudge in the right direction, you may just be engaged before you know it.
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